When You Say Yes to Who You Are, Not Everything Will Stay—But That’s Okay

The Cost of Becoming

May 11, 2025 | Written by Belle Cruz

There comes a moment in a woman’s life where the whisper within becomes too loud to ignore. A nudge. An ache. A quiet invitation to rise into who you were always meant to be.

When you begin to answer that call—when you start showing up more boldly, more honestly, more you—something happens:


Old doors may close.
Familiar paths may fade.
Not everyone will understand.

And yet…
Other doors will swing wide open.
New voices will echo with resonance.
Unseen hands will stretch forth with divine alignment.

You’ll realize that some relationships were rooted in a version of you that no longer exists. Some environments were too small for the woman you’re becoming. And some opportunities were only meant to carry you this far—not where you’re going.

It hurts sometimes, doesn’t it?
To feel the stretching.
To watch things fall away—not because you failed, but because you grew.

But here’s the truth:
Growth is not betrayal.
Obedience is not rebellion.
Becoming yourself is not selfish—it’s sacred.

When God calls you forward, it’s not always with fanfare. Sometimes it’s with loss.
But even loss has a way of making space—for breath, for beauty, for the real thing to bloom.

So if you’re walking through that in-between…
If you feel the sting of closed doors, the ache of letting go, the loneliness of alignment—
Take heart.

You are not doing something wrong.
You are doing something right.
You are simply becoming. And becoming often requires release.

Stay true to yourself.
To the voice that God gave you.
To the vision planted in your spirit before you ever knew how to carry it.

Because the doors meant for you won’t need to be forced open.
The people meant for you won’t require you to shrink.
And the future God designed for you won’t ask you to be anything less than who you fully are.

You’re not too much.
You’re just no longer willing to be less.

So walk forward, even if some doors close behind you.
You were never called to stay hidden in someone else’s story.

You were made to shine in your own.